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My boyfriend beats me. i need your...

Posted at 2:35 AM • 17 Comments

this is a really long story but i just need some help.
im 16 years old, i have been with my boyfriend ( also 16 ) just over a year now. he’s been beating me up for about 9 months. i know, please don’t judge me because i haven’t left him yet. i just don’t know what to do!
well ill start from the beginning. we met through school, and we really liked each other. we rushed into the relationship quite quickly but we did fall in love. at the beginning he was very sex orientated and put his friends before me. for example: i had really bad period pains and he said i should come round his and we would have a relaxing day together. but instead, he dragged me out in the rain and the cold to stand and watch him play football with a few mates for about 2 hours. then we continued on and he started to get angry with me for silly reasons. well ill skip to the main part.
he always hits me..
he accuses me of cheating on him at school(because he has left now)
i have a job and he wont let me talk to the boys there. and he adds all the boys on face book who i work with and says abusive things to them
he goes down my phone and deletes boys
he goes on my face book and deletes boys
if i don’t want a hug he hits me because he thinks im the worst girlfriend ever
i just don’t understand because now his whole life revolves around me. he worships the ground i walk on. he gets up every morning to walk me to and from school. he buys me gifts whenever he can. he saved up a whole year to give me £300 for my birthday. he always says how much he love me, how beautiful i am, and how i am the most perfect girl in the world.
the only reason im asking it now is because of the incident today. well he beat me up again the other day about something to do with work again.
and today he came round mine and he was leaving and i just didn’t want a hug goodbye. im sorry if that’s bad, but i just don’t like him touching me anymore because i feel dirty i told him that and he understands normally but today it was so unexpected. he just started punching me in the head, pulling my earrings straight through my ear. punching me everywhere. i don’t know what to do no more. i just want to be like the other girls who are in loving relationships i don’t deserve this do i?

if this helps the things hes done to me are
smash my head against window seal repeatedly
smash my head against walls
hes broken my rib, ankle and finger.
he gives me bruises like you’ve never seen before. it makes me look hideous.
he scratches me, pinches me, put scissors to my throat, kicks me in the face, pulls my hair, stamps over my body, punches my breasts, traps my hand in the door, threatens to kill me,
as well as using horrible language
whore, slut, slag, horse, dog, ugliest girl ive ever seen, disgusting, makes him feel sick looking at me, dirty, worst girlfriend ever.
and all i want to be in is a loving relationship
i haven’t left him because ive been in love with him, i want to leave and i don’t FEEL like i have any feelings for him, but i know if i leave i will miss him.

sometimes hes the best boyfriend in the world. and sometimes hes my worst nightmare.
he always apologizes after wards and begs for my forgiveness. but not straight away, it may take a few weeks, most of the time he said i deserve it. i cry 24/7
he u sed to cry after wards but now has no feelings whatsoever.

and he just sent me this message because im ignoring him at the moment
-im guessing your not gonna talk to me tonight but i will wait all night babes
i miss you

please please help me!

OK, all this is going on, and yet your parents haven’t noticed?

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17 Responses

if someone beats you they definitely don’t love you, leave him before it’s too late.
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✭ Brandon on December 18, 2009 at 8:10 am.
give me your name and address

the only way I could help is call the cops
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✭ ann s on December 18, 2009 at 8:44 am.
tell your dad to beat his azz. i would take a baseball bat to his head…
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✭ James on December 18, 2009 at 9:24 am.
Get away fast and get help. Noone that loves you like he says he does will ever put his hands on you. No woman deserves that. He is controlling your life and you need to leave before it is too late. Got to the cops and get a restraining order and let your family know whats going on. I hope you take to heart all the things people are going to write about your situation.
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✭ Mays12 on December 18, 2009 at 9:30 am.
OK, all this is going on, and yet your parents haven’t noticed?
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✭ latish_ann on December 18, 2009 at 10:10 am.
Next time he hits you, please contact the police.

Another advice I would give you is to break up with your boyfriend ASAP. An abusive man never changes his ways. You are only 16 years old and you don’t need to go through this.

If
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✭ Pokey Pony on December 18, 2009 at 10:23 am.
You really need to fix this!
This is awful, I think you need to talk to him and if he doesn’t understand then dump him and leave him. I know you will miss him but loving someone and getting beat isnt at all worth it. You do not deserve any of that.. :-/
There are many guys in the world you don’t ever have to force a relationship.
im sorry but your bf is very bi polar and a f*cken idiot
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✭ Coby on December 18, 2009 at 10:57 am.
Leave him!!!! NO ONE, I REPEAT, NO ONE DESERVES THIS!!!!!!! Don’t let it get to the point where he kills you, or injures you very severely. Love, there are sooo many boys out there who are willing to treat you right, if you give them the chance. Call the police, cos if you don’t and you break up with him, im not trying to scare you, but he will prolly come and find you. Hurry and put him behind bars WHERE HE BELONGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Love,
Sofie
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✭ Sofie the brunette on December 18, 2009 at 11:32 am.
wow, where to begin…

lets start with you:
YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THAT… I don’t care if you think you love him or he thinks he loves you, but thats not something you do to someone you love. Point one(and this is ignoring the physical abuse): if he loved you wouldn’t he trust you enough to be with other guys and to be by yourself every now and then? Point two: if he loves you why does he beat you?

Now the question is: why are you staying? do u think something will change? Do you think people change? well lemme just say that there are certain behavior types that just aren’t worth putting up with, especially if you going to get hurt. Honestly if you want to help him the best thing you can do for yourself, for him, and for any other girl he might get his hands on… is to lock that jerk in a cell…

Now i honestly think this guy is a little nuts, maybe bi-polar who knows, but he definitly has soething wrong with him. No one normal i know obesses about things like that, and he definitly needs some professional help, the kind of help that unless your a doctor you can’t help him.

So, in conclusion, just dump him and contact the athorities, or call an abuse hotline. THey are anonymous and will make sure you are safe!

gl
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✭ ziggystarsdust08 on December 18, 2009 at 11:39 am.
you need to tell someone you trust or the cops. if he is beating you up this hard at this time it could get worse!!!!! he could also kill you if you stay with him. you should get away from him, or get a restraining order against him! he not worth your love or time. you can do better and find someone who can treat you right. he isn’t the only guy in the world. move on and leave him behind! think your own health.
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✭ MACDR on December 18, 2009 at 11:57 am.
i’m not sure what advice you want. Of course you should end this relationship and stay away from this guy. You shouldn’t be anywhere near him anymore. You definitely need to ask someone for help namely your family, or a teacher, guidance counselor, etc.

You’re not focusing enough on yourself. It doesn’t matter how he feels about you, being in a relationship and having a boyfriend isn’t supposed to be like this. You’ve been with him for 9 months now and he’s been beating you this whole time. This is who he is, so it’s time to look out for yourself and cut him out of your life.
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✭ originata on December 18, 2009 at 12:18 pm.
Here is the deal:
You are in an abusive relationship! I am not going to hate on you. I know from experience even through all of this.. It’s hard to leave him. I am happy to hear that you know you deserve better than this! All I could do was think I deserved my abuse and I stayed because he apologized promising it would never happen again. Two times later, I finally pulled the plug on the relationship. After that, I hoped that he wouldn’t come after me.. That he wouldn’t try to kill me due to his anger issues.

What you need to do, is leave him. If you don’t, you will become how I was and believe you deserve it, then you will stay and he will keep abusing you until he kills you. You may think he could never do anything like that, but the fact he holds scissors to your throat says otherwise. Get another person to be in the room with you while you break up with him. That way, if he tries to do anything to you, the other person can call for help or keep him from doing anything dangerous to you. Once the breakup is a done deal, delete him from everything you have and cut off all contact with him. If he comes to your house, don’t let him in. If he becomes violent, call the police and have them remove him from your property. If you can prove he has beat you, you can go to the police station and get a restraining order.. That way, you are safer because the police will respond faster to your call.

You do not deserve this. No one does. It doesn’t matter how good he is to you at times, that does not excuse the fact that he has hurt you physically abusing you. The fact he says you deserve it means he is trying to corner you in to make you think you should stay with him. HE KNOWS WHAT HE IS DOING IS WRONG. I also suggest you tell someone who can get him into counseling so it doesn’t happen to anyone else.

I wish the best of luck to you and if you need anything you can E-mail me.
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✭ xxins4n3angelxx on December 18, 2009 at 12:34 pm.
He DOESN’T love you no mater what he says. a guy who gets off by knocking his girlfriend around shoud be in locked away! the only way he’s going to stop is if you’re DEAD or if you break up with him! you chose! Break up with his ass and file a report on his ass asap! Please just break up with him!
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✭ Mishy on December 18, 2009 at 12:45 pm.
Darling get OUT of this relationship….you deserve sooooo much better than this good for nothing arsewhole!…. you need to tell somebody you really trust like your mam/ a teacher/ auntie /dad/ anyone who can help you….

Dont for one second think that you have done anything to deserve this…you havn’t and it needs to stop now!

Nobody should be put through that torture for anybody especially somebody who ”loves” them…. and I use this word very loosely in your case as there is not an ounce of love in him.

He needs help and needs to know that it is never ok to treat someone like that.

I’m really sorry you have to deal with all this, please seek more help

I hope things work out….If you need to talk of just for someone to listen to you give me a shout …..
wccbw@yahoo.com
xxxxxxxxxx
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✭ Sarah Melissa on December 18, 2009 at 1:07 pm.
Do not break up with him in person, please please dont, especially not somewhere private. He might seriously hurt you. Please call the police if he evr threatens you again. You dont deserve this, your right, no matter what you may have done bad, no one deserves that. Hes sick, break up with him over the phone, and call the police if says anything threatening. And please please be careful, more than a few bruises could be at stake.

Good luck, and remember, its not your fault.
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✭ Kev on December 18, 2009 at 1:51 pm.
you haven’t done anything wrong, and you do not deserve anything that he has done to you. no one is allowed to hit anyone. i know you don’t want to leave, but you have to. you can end up a statistic if you don’t. he needs help, this will carry on throughout his life if the cycle of violence is not ended. you can’t help him i am afraid. tell your parents, tell your counselor at school, tell someone what is going on. if needed, involve the police. they can protect you. they can help you. get away from him as fast as you can and be safe with you.
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✭ olderwiser100a on December 18, 2009 at 2:17 pm.
all i. can say is get out. you need to talk to the police and report what he is doing. you deserve so much better. no man should ever lay a hand on a women i know its hard when you love somebody but he obviously doesn’t love you because if he did he wouldn’t want to hurt you. as women we always think that people will change BUT they DON’T. he will never change things will only get worse sooner or later. men like this have been know to kill. i am not trying to scare you but i cant EXPRESS how important it is that you get out and get some help. you are so young and deserve to live the life of a teen you should not be having to deal with this. i want you to know that not all men are like this that there are good men out there.who would treat you so much better. I don know if you believe in God but i do and i know that he loves you thinks the world of you. please get some help.
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✭ butterflyslm on December 18, 2009 at 2:28 pm.

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